The other big news - I got married! Yay!
We got engaged in 2011 after 9 years together then married this July 2012 one day after our ten year 'dating' anniversary. This means now we have a day in hand if either of us forget our anniversary hehe!
Our wedding was a very home-made affair with just 30 guests in the middle of the forest and a humanist ceremony. I made pretty much all the decorations (my dad did lots of bunting) and we also self-catered all the food and drink for the whole day. My mother grew all of the wedding flowers (except the bridal bouquet) in her garden. Over the coming weeks I plan to do add a 'how to' section for all the crafty bits I made.
I kept my surname and my husband kept his, for now anyway.
True to Scottish form it bucketed down with rain and while I ended up covered in mud, hair style unravelled, with no make-up not a spirit was dampened - the best day and the most fun I've ever had! Also there was a joyful irony in that I married a sound engineer and our sound system broke during the ceremony!
I don't think I've ever been happier and I don't think I could have coped with more than 30 guests! It was extremely tough going doing it quite so DIY but ultimately I think I would have been more stressed out had there been lots of staff running around and suppliers to deal with. I did miss out a bit on the much hyped 'bridal pampering' because I was so busy but my bridesmaids threw me an incredible hen party in Glasgow two days before which included falconry, archery, paintballing, a party with amazing Thai dinner at a Tiki Bar and the whole day had lots of personal touches.
We also did the whole thing on a bit of a shoe string budget. That's not to say it didn't cost us but our general living budget is pretty tight so although it was expensive to us, it was a drop in the ocean compared to most weddings. I'm not sure of the total but definitely under the £3000 mark for the whole thing. We did get some help from family to meet that cost.
Our biggest expense was the venue which included an Iron Age style Roundhouse, Marquee and the use of an entire campsite including 3 bunkhouses, a yurt, a tipi and hot tub for a day and night. This was followed by the food and drink, then the entertainment, celebrant, decorations, legal stuff and then the clothes...
Although I was making the decorations I still had to pay for some materials which also added up over the year but it was great because in the end the whole day was very 'us'.
My husband lost his birth certificate which is required for your pre-wedding documents (M10 form) but in Scotland you are able to get a new one quite quickly and he just had to visit the registery office in person to sort it out. They are very helpful in Dumfries. We did have a panic on that one but it was all ok so if you find yourself in the same position - don't worry but do head to the registers office ASAP!
We wrote our own vows and had a really beautiful ceremony performed by Erica Von Boltenstern who we can highly recommend. We booked her almost a year in advance, we were ok because our wedding was on a Tuesday but they do book up fast for weekends in the Summer.
We've not made it on honeymoon yet as we are still recovering finance wise! Also I started a new job and wanted to get settled in first. We're hoping to go in the Spring.