You can have really huge discussions about very little money. If you're in the same boat (a rented boat with little savings or day to day cash) planning a penny-wedding can be extremely tough. This is the one day/days you want to really go for it but you're also aware it is just one day (or just a few days depending on your traditions) and the marriage is the more important bit. You also may be trying to please family or friends with some of it. Don't despair though - if vintage is your jam then cheap as chips wedding planning dreams can come true!
Even if you're very cool and non-materialistic the day you officially declare and share with your loved ones that you have started a new family with someone who gets your bizarre sense of humour and have mutual fight to the death for each other feelings over is an important one. Ritual is important to humans and marking the occasion in a way that is right for you is important - if only for the fact it forces you to breathe in the moment and enjoy this successful person-finding.
If you are already sold on the concept of parties and weddings - awesome, go for it, just don't bust a nut trying to make it 'magazine perfect' or get in debt over it.
But if you do fancy a dress, check these out. I've tried to keep everything under between £20 - £200. Shops like Phase 8 and Monsoon have many other gorgeous dresses but they can go up into the hundreds.
So last up I guess is my dress! I wore a pale pink satin Ghost dress which I got in the sale at John Lewis for £70. It was a 1930's inspired style with a slight trail at the back (as you can see from the pic below I'm hoisting it up to keep it out of the mud, it rained for 24 hours solid). It has an empire line, cowl neck, lace cap sleeves, and button detail down the side. Ghost don't make my particular dress any more but they do have similar ones in their dye-to-order range priced around £225. Finding one in the sale was just luck. My veil was two tier with scallop edges pearl beading and little flowers attached.
Rockin' Roy DID wear actual vintage - he wore my fathers Kilt suit! His surname isn't a Scottish clan one one so we went with my tartan.
My dress was the first dress I actually tried on - basically because I thought it there was no way it would suit me or fit me and it would be best to see how terrible it looked on and put it out of my mind. But turns out it did fit and it looked not too bad! I'd advise you to try a lot of different styles on, you may be surprised at how good they look. My friends forced me to try some other dresses (only one sequinned Gatsby style came close to the Ghost dress but it seemed uncomfortable to move about in) which helped solidify my choice.
We had exactly a year and 1 day between the wedding and engagement and I didn't start on the dress shopping until about 2/3 months before. With more time I think I could have got it down to £50 but with a different dress. My dress wasn't my 'dream dress', I did have one, but it was so far out our budget as to have been impossible. I also had two 'crazy ridiculous dream dresses' (you can see dress one and dress two in these links) which would have required a small lottery win.
My eventual dress was beautiful and got the job done. To be honest on the day I was so happy I didn't care much what I was wearing but I should have gotten a shorter one for ceilidh dancing in!!! We got married in the woods so I should have realised but I'm glad I had such a classic style for the photos. Shame the rain dissolved my hair and make-up efforts though! The price you pay for an off the grid wedding in Scotland. My dress also gives me the option of dying it another colour and using it for other events - something you might not get with a traditional wedding frock.
Hopefully these dresses might help with some inspiration. Next time - cakes!