We married in July and still have not booked the honeymoon. Before the wedding we couldn't really take the time off work or afford it, plus I was overwhelmed with all the planning and prepartion and I just couldn't deal with another thing to book. So we stuck it in the 'to-do' pile.
Now its closing in on October and we have nothing planned or booked.
We are using airmile points which were given to us as a gift for the flights. This makes booking a bit tricky as we have to be very specific and do it ourselves rather than through a travel agent. It also means lots of researching. We don't drive either so we need to work out all our transfers etc. It just feels like this not very fun task and I can't get excited about it at all.
I'm aware this sounds incredibly moany 'oh can't choose where to go on my honeymoon fiddle-dee-de!' I know how lucky we are to be able to go on at all and it is a huge deal to us. Perhaps this is why I feel so torn and upset about it. We went back over the calculations and really we did our wedding on a bit of a shoe-string. I know people who have spent what we spent on the whole wedding on just their dress which put it in perspective. Still against our living budget the cost felt huge. This means at the moment we continue to be pretty broke and will be for a few months which always puts you in the mindset you shouldn't be looking at fancy hotels!
I just don't really know what to book or look for or really what kind of holiday we want. Do we want to go to the beach? Self cater? Wander the city? Go to a spa? I've never been to a spa, I have no idea!
We don't travel much because we can't afford to but when we do it's all full day diy itineraries, pack lunches, backpacks and the cheapest of the cheap places to stay and I keep thinking a honeymoon is supposed to a be wee bit more relaxing and luxurious. Its a once in a lifetime thing where we actually have the potential to go somewhere we never could normally and the decision is completely overwhelming me. How do you choose where to go when there is so much of the world to explore!?
Usually I'm really good at this kind of thing - planning and scheming. Feeling so lost has thrown me for a loop. Also I just feel really guilty because we have this amazing opportunity to actually go somewhere and I'm not excited about it! It's just not the sort of thing you are supposed to feel down about. And, because I'm usually good at this stuff my husband is kind of just waiting for me to plan it, not because he takes anything for granted just because we usually play to our strengths and this was supposed to be mine.
I've not read too much online about people cracking up over planning their honeymoons but I'm sure it must happen to other people too. I think being on a tight budget makes you overthink it all because its the only shot you've got at something potentially fantastic and once in a lifetime. Better not leave it too long or we'll miss it completely...
Did you ever have trouble planning a trip that was supposed to be fun? Or did your honeymoon plans come easily? Answers on a postcard!